(Blog updated July 2019) Our most recent actual use of the missional discipleship church framework described below in this blog is our review of our Children and Young People’s Ministries in February 2019. Here is that Focus Day Programme with the detail of our approach for a specific need, The framework we used will be very similar to this Garden_Dining_Rooms_and_Kitchens_basic_grid. We will be doing something similar, but looking at our wider church once again to refresh and update our vision, on the 2nd November 2019.

Mission is firmly linked, through the revelatory nature of God with His world, by the Holy Spirit and we need to be as inline with Him as we can be. The principle behind wanting to link Mission and Discipleship is because of a conundrum at the core of the book – “While we may ‘do’ outreach, it is the Holy Spirit who encourages someone towards a church so they can both encounter Jesus and grow in Him. If the church can’t offer that discipleship, why would the Holy Spirit bring them?”

St Jude’s uses this simple ‘domestic’ analogy of Gardens, Dining Rooms and Kitchens so that everyone can

a) easily remember it and its principles

b) so we can use one (or two) word phrases that convey a lot of concepts quickly and

c) help everyone to actually engage with it.

The one word terminology connects us quickly to much larger concepts (for example, within St Jude’s, if we talk about “Garden” environments we know that is about outreach, guests, hospitality, etc etc…) – and primarily it is to help us to keep us on track and avoid drifting away from what a Church is supposed to primarily be about. We want to stay focused towards our community and ensure we retain hospitality in all we do, but when a Church does that, it can also easily lose its focus on sharing the Good News of Jesus or growing well balanced, replicating, disciples . We want to remain faithful to the Good News we have been given through our faith.

We’re often asked about this analogy of “Gardens, Dining Rooms and Kitchens”, so we thought a short blog on some of the basics could help. We have a mission statement that we want to be a Church that is about “Christ and our Commitment to grow in him and his Commandments and Commission”, that for shorthand we call C4. But as mentioned, we know we need a strategy to stay close to our church’s role in God’s mission, or we’ll drift from the Word to the World.

St Jude’s is a church with a heart for community. We’ve been at the heart of the local community for over a century and we also work hard at maintaining a community of disciples of Jesus Christ within the church too. However, we don’t want to keep the two separate. We love having an opportunity to serve our local community and welcome all as guests to the many things we do. We recognise that God through his grace, gives gifts to us, one of those being the spiritual gift of evangelism. However, we also acknowledge that not many in any of our churches operate in that gift, and so we wanted to structure our church, so that together, we can also find a way within honestly, freely and openly given hospitality, non coercively, to share our faith with ‘gentleness and respect’ (1 Peter 3:15)


Well, we’ve come to recognise that it’s what God has done and continues to do for us through Jesus. He acted first and offered us an opportunity to be a part of His family. He didn’t ask us to do something initially, instead His heart is a generous offering one. He welcomes all and in time hopes we will begin to transform to become more like his son, Jesus. We also know it’s not our role to persuade or cajole someone into any sort of relationship with Jesus, He does that by his Holy Spirit for any who ask Him. All we can ever do is offer environments, with ‘signposts’ to other options, that might help anyone at different stages in our walks towards our Creator.

Therefore, we organise St Jude’s around three types of environments that we have called Gardens, Dining Rooms and Kitchens within which the principle of ‘signposts’ is crucial. They are not real gardens or kitchens, but they act as a recognisable and memorable domestic image shorthand so we know why we do what we do each time around. The analogy works best when you think of food – BBQ’s, lovely dinner parties or family food eaten from a kitchen table.

Garden environments are created by us for Guests. Just like anyone is welcomed at a BBQ in a garden and can come and go as they wish, all are also welcomed and served as a family would any guest. At any of these social occasions we’re open to any conversation that arises, but we won’t force one. We may have a flyer or poster offering something else, but nothing is pressured in any way. You’re a Guest.




But, if anyone asks to take a small step from the Garden, then we have what we call Dining Room environments. Just like a small intimate dinner party can enable friendship to grow, again these are places and events where we would serve, but they are smaller and a bit more focused on the reason for gathering. Just like we would probably talk about a beautiful meal prepared for us at a dinner party, we might have a church video course where conversation is free and easy – but now focused a little more. Anyone is still a guest, but maybe over time, friendship might happen.

Lastly, if someone wants to take a step into Jesus’ family, then we offer Kitchen environments. Kitchens are where many families eat. They do the washing up and help prepare the food too. This is where family conversations happen. You wouldn’t get into the detail of all your family to a guest at a garden BBQ – so why subject a Guest to that? But when we’re family – well that’s different.

Within our Kitchen spaces – like our Church family Small Groups or special courses, we help people discover what God may be getting them prepared for in Ministry, not a job in the church, but a place in the world. That’s why in our model we have a Sink in the Kitchen – the place of ministry. The other ‘appliance’ in our Kitchen is an Oven – the place everything in a Kitchen is finished off. We help everyone who wants to, to discover something about mission, so they can share with others when asked.

By far, the greatest aspect of this analogy of Gardens, Dining Rooms and Kitchens is hospitality. It sits at the heart of the Gospel (see our blog on Hospitality here). There will never be pressure applied. If you were to come to a social event, or maybe one of our Church services, you would be our Guest. Just as an example – we don’t take a collection at our services – why would we ask a Guest to contribute?

“Gardens, Dining Rooms and Kitchens” is a very helpful analogy for us as we serve our local community. It removes all the pressure some think exists to ‘convert’ their neighbours and friends. That really isn’t our role. Instead we are called to real relationships, where they change over time as any other friendship develops outside a church setting. We get to know folk as guests, in time maybe becoming friends, to eventually become like family. Those steps can be inspired by God as and when we are ready. Its not up to us to engineer anything, instead just welcome everyone with the same hospitality that God models for all of us.

And finally, to help see what this looks like in practice within a real Church setting, below is just such an example. It is a summary created from a Church focussing into an area of its life – in this case its Children and Young people’s provision. Its engages with the real questions of “How are we doing in our outreach to ALL children? (& their families). How are we doing at enabling them to begin to grow and hopefully in time flourish as Disciples?

What it has enabled this Church to do (i.e. not the Minister!) is to discover gaps in provision and to prioritise areas that may need some help first, once people and funds allow or to consider what funds may need reallocating etc.

(We provided the simplest of descriptions of the whole church process within our Mission_Action_Plan_Summary_a5_2018 or if you continue to the end of this blog the book on it can be downloaded.)

If you want to read more about the principle of Gardens, Dining Rooms and Kitchens, including the theology behind it and how to put it into practice, there is a book available here via Amazon – and optionally and inexpensively via Kindle here.

We would love more people to have access to the book behind our mission method. So for a short season, Tim Smith is making it available as a free download in a watermarked pdf version here: Gardens_Dining_Rooms_and_Kitchens_Book_watermarked

We hope you enjoy reading it and find it helpful – at 120 pages (incl pictures!) its quite a quick and easy read. Perhaps you could send us your comments or share this page with others? However, we do ask, if you do download this free version, not to copy or distribute it and contravene its copyright. Thanks.